If you don’t have any haters, you’re not making enough noise in your marketplace. These
days, pretty much everyone doing something great is hated on by someone
doing nothing. That’s what people do these days. Instead of hustling
hard, doing what’s right and being cool, they’d rather argue politics
and hate on successful people. It’s a sad state of affairs.
A
month ago, I was at a Tony Robbins’ event sitting front and center.
Tony stood next to where I sat the entire three hours he spoke. Every
time he moved, a bodyguard followed him around. The bodyguard crouched
down and hung back, but he was always looking right at Tony. I thought
to myself who TF would want to hurt Tony?
Then it dawned on me that everyone has haters.
I realized that if Tony Robbins, the closest living thing to Jesus the world has seen, has haters, I’m doomed to deal with them forever.
I’m
gonna do what I do best here and get real with you. I used to be a
hater, too. I wish it weren’t true, but it is. I didn’t even realize I
was doing it; it just happened. I used to hate on people who did nothing
to me. I’m really ashamed to admit it. When I was doing it, I felt
justified and thought it was righteous to call people out. Now, I
realize I was just being a fool.
This year was a big year for me. Not just financially either. I learned some things about myself and life that
will stay with me forever. I took DMT this year twice and both times it
opened my mind to see where I was falling short. I also hired the best
mental coach in the entire world. He showed me what was really going on
in my mind.
Looking
back, I realize that the people I hated on, knew about me, the same
things I know about those who now hate on me. It’s time to reveal what I
learned about hating and haters over the last decade. I get hate mail
every day. I get tagged in f’d up comments all the time. I see the same
patterns, and I’m going to show you why having haters is actually a good
thing.
Haters Speak in Projections:
The things the haters say about you are actually just the things they
hate about themselves. One of my favorite sayings is: “If you spot it,
you got it,” and that’s exactly why it’s so easy for haters to point out
what they don’t like about you. It’s also what makes it hard for people
on the other side to understand why they are being hated on.
Haters Always Reveal the Truth:
Haters always tell you the truth about themselves. I once had a hater
tell me I was running a Ponzi scheme and embezzling money.
I was like “Where is this person getting this info from?” It turned
out, that person was the one doing both of those things. When you get
blamed by someone for doing something you haven’t done, the person
pointing the blame is always the guilty party.
Haters Are Obsessed with You:
I’ve had one guy who has trolled me every day for over seven months. If
you look up “obsessed” in the dictionary, there will be a picture of
all your haters next to it. They want to be you, can’t stand your
success and are mad at themselves. This is the formula to
obsession.
Haters Are Mad at Themselves More Than You:
When you’re living the good life and someone starts hating on you, it’s
hard to understand what you might have done to set them off. It’s not
about you though. You’re simply the target of
their aggression, not the source. The source is that they hate
themselves and where they are in life. You’re just the person they
project it at.
Haters Are Eaten up with Jealousy:
What if some dude stole your wife, moved in next door and raised your
kids alongside you? You’d lose your mind with jealousy. That’s the same
level of jealousy haters have. In their mind, everything you have, you
took from them. In their mind you’re to blame for what they lack.
Haters Secretly Wish They Were You:
This is the real root of the problem. The haters want to be you. Most
people live life unhappy with who they are. They want to be rock stars,
TV stars and billionaires.
When one of us makes our dreams come true, those who didn’t level up
and do it themselves hate you for being what they wish they could
be.
They Don’t Know You Know Their Secret:
The thing you need to know about haters is that they secretly do all
the above-listed truths. The thing is, they don’t know you know. I now
know that when I talked shit about Grant Cardone or Gary Vee, they knew
it was for the above reasons. Now, that I realize what I did, I’ll never
hate on anyone’s success again. I had to learn to think bigger.
Don’t
sweat the haters. If I had $1 for every hater, I’d have about $500 and
$500 ain’t worth my time. As you grow your following and build
your network,
haters will surface. Don’t let them and their dirty tricks steal your
focus and keep you from doing what you know you need to do to make the
most of your life.
If you acknowledge them, the haters win.
Stay
hater free, don’t sweat the bullshit and keep doing what you’re doing.
If you’re making people jealous then you’re doing it right and don’t let
anyone else tell you otherwise. To join a hater-free network with a
bunch of badasses focused on winning go to www.breakfreeacademy.com/entourage
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